Wednesday, August 24, 2016
I declared months ago that I will not be attending the Toronto Int'l Film Festival for my 12th year in a row. I'm already going to go to Toronto for the TIFF Soiree featuring Michael Fassbender on Wednesday, September 7th. However, I would like to explore possibly driving to Toronto, again, on Saturday so I can see Michael's film, Trespass Against Us, at 11:45am, as well as The Magnificent Seven, directed by the awesome Antoine Fuqua, and starring Denzel Washington at 2:30pm.
Try as I might to put all things TIFF out of my mind, I find myself wringing my hands slightly to see if there's a chance I can go there quickly, just to see two movies, and get out of town. Because I'm so close to Toronto, it's almost like a no brainer in determining if I should attend, especially on a Saturday! Well, individual tickets for the festival go on sale on Sunday, Sept 4th at 9am. If I can buy these two tickets, or just the one for Trespass, I will make it another fun one-day excursion to Toronto, and this will definitely be the LAST time I drive from Michigan to Toronto to attend the festival.
If it's meant to be, I'll be there.
Friday, August 19, 2016
|Nate Parker (middle) as Nat Turner in Birth of a Nation|
But that all came to a screeching halt last weekend when on a promotional interview, writer, director and actor of Birth, Nate Parker, candidly made reference to his past criminal investigation of a rape in 1999 while a student at Penn State. Although he was found not-guilty due to a technicality, basic information about this situation was on his wikipedia page for quite a while. But because Nate has been an actor who has been under the radar in the past 10 years of his acting/directing career, not a lot of people were aware of him, let alone the public records of his 'transgression' at Penn State in 1999. In what I believe was an attempt to be open and seemingly remorseful about his past, Nate opened this conversation up to a much wider public audience where 98% of us did not know about this rape case. Like most people, I'm not in the habit of when I first learn about a public figure, I don't go directly to his/her wikipedia page to learn more about them. I just read the general article that is written about them, and leave it at that. So it's not like this rape case was being suppressed or anything, the basic gist of it was there on his wikipedia page... but not the gory details, which are just now being shared to the rest of us who had no clue about the rape case period.
In the past several days, we've come to learn that Nate's writing partner, Jean Celestin, was also involved in the rape case. But unlike Nate, Jean was actually found guilty - but six months later, in a failed re-trial, he was exonerated. So now that's three brand new pieces of information to soil the film: 1. a rape, 2. friend found guilty but Nate off on a technicality, and 3. friend eventually exonerated. But as people become curious, disgusted and then more outraged about this new old information, more shovels come out to dig up more dirt. We come to learn that the technicality that got Nate cleared was only because he had a sexual encounter with the girl a day before. So yah, it's ok then to have sex with her unconscious body a day later! Not!
It gets worse. There is a phone transcript between the girl and Nate where she states how confused (she was drunk and blacked out) she was and curious as to how many more guys were in the room. Nate totally blew her off and made like she knew what was going down and he was very hesitant to let her know that Jean was part of the sexual encounter too. There was also a third guy involved. He was in the dorm room with Nate, Jean and the girl, and when he saw her unconscious body laying on the bed while Nate was having his way with her, he told authorities that Nate invited them both to join in! Jean joined in raping her, but the other guy left because he knew it was wrong and didn't want to have anything to do with it. For clarification, to me, a person is being raped when they are heavily drugged or intoxicated, and cannot freely agree to having sexual relations with one person... let alone a second person. Ok?
Reports from the case, and testimony from the girl lay bare how devastating this attack was to her. The young woman was already fragile having coming from a broken home, foster care, and battling depression. Even after dealing with such personal turmoil, she was very bright and was a straight A student. She worked two jobs, and had a scholarship to Penn State. She explained how she was so confused and scared about not knowing what happened to her that previous night as she woke up very sore and knew she had been raped. She was in such a physical state, she could not walk well and she said that her vagina was literally painful and felt like it was shredded. The Daily Beast wrote a most thorough, chilling, and compelling article about the entire case. Anyone with a hint of compassion for a rape victim will be terribly disturbed by the recounting of the events. The harassment that the victim experienced to keep her from testifying in the second trial is awful. It appears that the department of athletics at Penn State and students supporting Nate and Jean made life on campus for the girl unbearable, embarrassing, and under constant threat.
She attempted suicide twice within a 10 day period in late 2002-ish, but eventually fell down a self-destructed path of no return and died on her third suicide attempt in 2012. Her family states that the rape and the trial and the harassment destroyed her and lead to her killing herself. The stress and feeling of helplessness from her attack, broke her down mentally, and she was never able to recover.
Fortuitously, with Nate Parker bringing up this case in an effort to put it out there now and behind him as he prepares for Oscar season, we all now learn of the victim's fate, her death by suicide four years ago. This knowledge really pissed off people and added a new layer to this terrible saga. Apparently, the news of the victim's death came as a surprise to Nate, and he has written some lame ass soul cleansing post on his facebook. I don't care what the man has to say as I believe it's insincere. Based on what I know from public records of this case, he's an asshole who took advantage of a woman in the worst way, and left her in such a mental and physical state that she eventually killed herself years later.
|Nation could still do ok at the Oscars - because people need it to|
There are those who are compelled to still watch this film, and I do understand why because this is an important story that needs to be told and watched. People are anxious to see Nat Turner's story on the big screen - a long, long overdue account that again, needs to be told. Thus far the film has yet to receive outstanding critical praise, just very modest support. Yet again, another indication that this film is being handled with delicate gloves in order to position it to win big at the Oscars, in a shallow attempt to redeem the Oscars themselves from recent years of not valuing diversity in key award categories.
I cannot in good conscience support Birth of a Nation by going to see it, and I'll go a step further and write that I do not believe that this film should win Best Picture. I don't have much say or pull, but I think my sentiments are shared by a lot of people, especially those who are able to vote. Birth is also being positioned to be nominated in Directing and Actor for Nate. If the film were to overcome this PR nightmare, it would win just three years after 12 Years a Slave won Best Picture, another film about 19th century American slavery and the evils of that time. I personally wish that there was another type of American story about black life that was not related to slavery times in the position of being honored by the Oscars. But like those who make Halocaust films and documentaries, American slavery is a significant and horrific historical event that lasted over two hundred years (1619-1865) - much longer than the Halocaust in Europe; but these are stories that need to be told. However, the big major difference in a so called justification of the proliferation of Halocaust stories vs. American slavery stories, is that the Halocaust was a much more recent, and many actual survivors and some of the evil perpetrators are still alive. No American slaves or American slave owners are alive today... however, yes, the after effects of slavery itself still linger in this country at the detriment of many black Americans.
I want people to see Parker's Birth of a Nation if they want to, when it rolls out into theaters on October 7. I want Birth of a Nation to recoup its production costs - I don't want it to be an utter failure at the box office. And I want Nate Parker to eventually evolve and move on from his horrible actions of 1999. But I don't want him to be honored this year at the Oscars. I'm too disturbed by his actions from 17 years ago, and I think his actions are unforgivable as we are coming to learn the full extent of the sexual assault event. I don't hate Nate Parker, he is a flawed human being whose recent words appear false and lacking true humility. His words are designed only to protect the film's Oscar chances and to protect his legacy. But in the end, this is show business and the business end of it takes precedence, and Fox Searchlight is going to get their money back come hell or high water, and they will do whatever it takes to get at least one Oscar for this film. To that, I say, good luck, you'll need it because this week, Birth of a Nation's Oscar chances died.
Friday, August 5, 2016
I registered with Airbnb last year in anticipation of needing to use this service as I make plans to move to California. But as I was trying to set up my account, I was having huge difficulties in managing my profile and providing my credit card information. It was so bad, I was just about to cancel everything and walk away from using their services. However, I decided to reach out to their customer service to get their help. They were very helpful but puzzled by my problem to complete updating my profile. It took them almost a week to fix the problem, but they resolved the registration issue on my account. But, Airbnb went a step further, they apologized to me for the technical glitch and they gave me $100 credit to use towards my first booking. It was an extremely generous offer for an annoying situation and that made me really appreciative of how they respect their customer's time.
Well today I booked my first Airbnb reservation at a house in Los Angeles near Culver City/Venice. LA is a popular destination so if you want to use Airbnb, you need to book early. I am on an extremely tight budget so I had to find something within my $50/night range. I saw two places that were under $40, but one was literally a spare 'sofa' in a dark room, and the other was more like a hostel where they had bunkbeds in a large room. Look, even while I'm on a budget, I still have standards. However, I found this really cute room in a house for $53/night. I read the amenities, noted my preferred location in this vast city, and I read their cancelation policy. Everything else nearby was out of my budget range, and that's ok because I really got lucky in selecting this place.
The way Airbnb works is that people register with this company to host visitors to stay at their place. Some hosts have the bare minimum amenities for those on strict budgets, and others are quite luxurious. I'm smack dab in the middle. I get a private bed and bath in a 'cute and modern' home. So once you submit a request to stay at a place and the time you want to stay, the host will make the decision to accept your request or not. I almost forgot - it is extremely helpful to read the reviews of guests who stayed at properties, they can make or break your decision. Although the place I decided to stay at was new and had only six reviews, all six were 5-star reviews and the comments were very nice. To help the host decide to accept you, you're given the opportunity to write a message explaining your reason for visiting and needing a place to stay. Nice, simple and transparent. Not five minutes later, I get a text message from the host providing me with some updates about her home. I agreed and understood and in the next message, she approved me to stay. After applying my $100 credit to the payment, I only owed $102. Broken down for three nights, that is only $34 a night - totally within my budget!
The neat thing about staying at this particular residence is that it is only a 7 minute walk from an Enterprise car rental. I will rent a car so I can drive to my appointments, and of course, I got the most economical car. So, I'm really excited about my late September visit, which will be an opportunity for me to attend some important networking interview/meetings as well as check out places to live. Another cool thing about Airbnb is that most residences that host give a discount for monthly rentals. So that's something for me to think about as a temporary backup plan.
Thanks to those who have pledge thus far to make a donation by the end of my fundraiser. I really, really appreciate any donations made! xoxo
Monday, August 1, 2016
|Michigan has 3, 288 miles of freshwater coastline, the longest in the US|
With so many people all around the world using the Internet to raise money for a multitude of reasons and events, I truly believe that one must be transparent in the reason why they are asking for money, and to be careful to not permit the fundraising to get out of control to the point where integrity comes into question, and people wonder what you really have planned for that money. Also, there's lots of money to be made from the fundraiser sites that are supposedly designed to help people raise money. You have to read the fine print about the fees that are automatically deducted from those sites - it's in their best interest that a fundraiser does well enough that they profit off of it. So when I realized that my previous fundraiser venue had a questionable fee structure, I backed away from it as I didn't want to support their profits during the one public time I am seeking extra financial support.
I realize I may be opening myself up for ridicule, but you cannot get help without asking for it. At the top of the sidebar, I have a Paypal donation link. If you are so inclined to make a donation from Aug 1 - Sept 15, I would greatly appreciate it. Please let me know if you have any questions.
As I wrap up my final few months here in Michigan, I'm taking note of things that I'll be doing for the 'last time' in my home state. Like last weekend, I ventured to the Ann Arbor Art Fair. It was a perfect day, and I stuck to my budget of $25 to spend by buying a pretty hair wrap, and some gorgeously moisturizing goat milk soap! I'm checking out some of my favorite stores for fun walk through. Even though I will be visiting Michigan regularly, things change and sometimes stores close or move to a different area. Of all the cities in Michigan, Ann Arbor is the only one that I feel a genuine emotional connection with, and I'll miss it. But, like I said, I'll be back.
And although I announced months ago that I will not be attending the Toronto International Film Festival this year, I will attend a soiree just a day before the festival opens. It will be a quick one day trip to my beloved Toronto, but it will be worth it. When I left Pearson airport last month after my trip overseas, I believed then that it was my last time driving from Toronto back home to Michigan. Well, since this soiree event has been announced for September 7th, I will truly make one last round trip drive to Toronto from Michigan. The first drive I made was back in the late 90s, but prior to that, in the early 90s, I took the train. I will miss being so close to the coolest non-American, American city in the world. In the future when I attend TIFF, I'll be flying to it from Los Angeles.
Wednesday, July 13, 2016
It is important to take the time to acknowledge your own progress, regardless how small. Forward is forward. Yes, you may not have achieved your main goal yet but you are moving in the right direction. I make sure to tell myself that every now and then. Often I hear people feel like they are not where they want to be, but don't ever feel a sense of accomplishment for how far they have come. Congratulate yourself. Reward yourself. Get yourself something to remind you of what you accomplished so you can remember that positive feeling. - Dr. Mitchell Gibson
This is great advice that I have to remind myself. Any action made towards my goal to move to Los Angeles, California, is progress. All these little steps will add up to making my goal, which is to have a safe relocation to the Los Angeles area with a job lined up before the end of October. So much planning is going into this huge life transition that it must come together and work out in the end.
I have to stay the course and stay positive! Om.
Wednesday, July 6, 2016
I'm fresh back from my long, long planned family trip to London and Paris, and it was a success and I'm glad it's over. And as timing would have it, I arrived in London just as the English voted LEAVE on the Brexit referendum. While flying into Heathrow on Air Canada, at around 6:30 am, the pilot announced that England voted to remain in the EU. I was disappointed but figured they would do this. Then not 3 minutes later, he announced that he was in error, and that actually, 52% of the voters decided to LEAVE, to the 48% who wanted to remain. The gasps were audible on the plane. LOL! I had hoped they would vote to leave, but I didn't think they would have the guts to follow through on such an important and world changing event. When we landed and as I was in the long customs queue, I was reading on my ipad that the PM resigned. Holy crap! I know England will prevail once all the dust settles from this historic saga and all the crazy politics. I also hope that Parliament and the new Prime Minister does the right thing and push through Article 50 in September which will initiate England's actual exit from the European Union. Everyone who voted for Leave was very, very brave, it was a terribly difficult decision that needed to be made, and I wish my second home away from home the best! Not everyone who voted to leave is racist, in fact, a small minority are loud and proud idiot racists, but the majority of people were not and simply did not trust the direction that the EU was leading England into, and the immigration situation should be controlled by the British. Period.
Now that my Euro trip is over, I am officially in Move to LA mode. I have to work my butt off the rest of this summer to not only save for this big move, but also continue to pay current bills and rent, and look for a new job in Los Angeles. Short of winning the lottery jackpot (which I'm confident I will win big one day), I have to hustle like a mofo to be financially in the position to relocate. I have already decided that I will sell everything in my apartment that is able to be sold, and I will give away the rest to the Salvation Army, and I will put the rest into storage. I will only take with me what will fit into my car. I can't even attach a u-haul hitch to my car because it's not recommended for my vehicle type. So it will be a bare bones move at the end of October, or sooner, and I'm just going to be positive about the whole thing. The universe will take care of my needs as long as I take the proper actions to achieve what I want.
This year I started out visiting Palm Springs, then I visited Philadelphia in April, then I went to Toronto, London, and Paris... and now I have to hunker down for the rest of the summer for my final and permanent destination of Los Angeles. These next few months are going to be stressful, but in a good and promising way.
Tuesday, June 21, 2016
When my niece started high school four years ago, I told her that for her graduation gift, I would take her to London. She then asked if we could also visit Paris. Without blinking an eye, I said yes. Four years later, we are two days away from heading to my favorite city in the world, London, and the fantastic city of Paris. This will be my 12th or 13th trip (I need to count my passport stamps) to London, and my second to Paris. We're all packed and just waiting for the countdown clock to chime. I will make a pitstop in Toronto to have lunch with my dearest Canadian friend Glenn, and then fly to London from Toronto, where on Friday evening we'll have dinner with my dearest English friend Lucinda, and then on Saturday, meet up with a dear Fassinator friend, Anna - she will join us on the Jack the Ripper tour!
However financially straining this trip planning has been, it's been worth it because it's something that is a once in a lifetime trip for my niece, my mother, and me. I'll be the tour guide this time and watching them ooh and ahh over how brilliant both these beautiful and fun cities are.
Follow my Instagram account for holiday photo adventure updates between June 23 through July 2!
Friday, June 10, 2016
This is the second time this week I wanted to share an opinion posted online at the New York Times. The comment below was written by a poster appropriately named Socrates in response to Jack Klugman's editorial on Hillary Clinton's Democratic Party nomination, Hillary and the Horizontals.
What Socrates wrote was so informative, educational, and sensible, that I have to share it with my readers:
What Socrates wrote was so informative, educational, and sensible, that I have to share it with my readers: